Yesterday I wrote about how we came to the point where we felt we needed to do something different than school. During the time of wondering how I could possibly help my daughter I was pouring my heart out to someone and they mentioned homeschooling. I must admit when I first heard her speak of homeschooling fear overcame me. “I am not qualified to teach daughter… I don’t even know how to start… My daughter would drive me crazy or I would drive her crazy… What in the world will happen to my daughter if I choose to do it?.. Won’t my daughter be scarred for life?..” On and on the fear-filled questions went. And I must also admit that those questions still come from time to time.
But as I researched the subject, literally spending hundreds of hours going to dozens of blogs, dozens of websites that were for and against homeschooling, and dozens of curriculum websites, not to mention speaking to people in person, I have found that everyone who makes this decision goes through the same kind of stress and worries when trying to come up with the right decision for their child and family. That was a comfort. What has been more comfort are the statistics I have found while doing my research.
If you look at the education aspect alone, homeschoolers test much higher on average than traditional school kids. They transition into the non-school world much better and high ranked colleges are now recruiting homeschoolers because they work better on their own, have more original ideas and are more self-motivated. They know how to learn and love it. That was enough to get me to thinking more earnestly.
Then the next thing that I researched was how it would affect my family and its dynamics. Would we get closer or would it drive a wedge between us. That was exciting to read about as well because blog after blog, story after story, book after book all I found was that the bond between children and parents and siblings was strengthened and sealed on a deeper level than ever before. It was a lifestyle, not just school. I wanted that too!
Then there was the social aspect. I have been asked many times, “How do you socialize your kids?” Asking as if I have my daughter locked in the closet until it is time for school then shove her back in there after it is over. Most homeschoolers are very social and very active, quite a bit more than the normal family. And their activities revolve around kids of all ages as well as adults and people of all different lifestyle backgrounds. In regular school, kids are stuck in a class of kids all the same age from the same area of town… homeschooling seemed to be better at teaching your child how to communicate and have fun in all kinds of situations (unless you of course locked them in the closet all day except when homeschooling). 😉
My daughter has learned how to play nice not only with kids her own age but older kids and younger ones. She has learned how to have fun with seniors and adults of all ages. She has helped feed the poor and do other kind things for people. Not saying that kids in school don’t learn these things as well, just that homeschoolers do too and it can often be the focus.
When I started to see all the opportunities and possibilities, far more than I could share here, I started to get excited… very excited! It wasn’t how I ever expected to feel when the word homeschooling was ever mentioned.
During this whole time we asked the Lord to weigh in on the subject. Because without His leading where would we be? We knew that if we listen to God, researched wisely, made no rash decisions that we would be able to come to the right decision for our family. God knows what is best for us, and He will guide our every path during this decision. God has also given us very strong command to “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it” Proverbs 22:6. It is our responsibility to make sure our kids learn, even and especially if they go to public school. Homeschooling puts that responsibility square in your lap, and that can be a very good thing for our kids.
We have been homeschooling for just over a year now. It was the best decision we ever made. Our daughter is flourishing in school, she loves it! She has friends, family and faith to fill her life. And she can play in the snow all she wants, because I am the teacher and when I say schools over, it is! Even if it is only 10:00am 😉
If you are thinking of homeschooling, remember that other people’s experiences are vital. Research is a must.
Knowing your family is imperative. But if you do not consult the Lord through it all, then you are flying by the seat of your pants. You may end up doing the right thing, but not without a lot of stress, heartache and bumps that could have been avoided along the way. I pray you are able to make the right decision for your family with God’s help. If I can ever answer any questions I am more than happy to do my best.
Thank you for listening to our story. God bless and have a wonderful New Year!!!